If you are getting married and don’t have a prenuptial agreement, you should see a psychiatrist, not a lawyer. A divorce today, regardless of who or where you are, is intrusive, expensive and over-the-top nerve-wracking. Even if you have very little money when you get married, believe it: America is the land of promise. The person who sells you tickets can very well, in the future, own the theatre. The waiter or waitress may end up owning the restaurant. Smart people make sure they have prenuptial agreements. Donald Trump had a pre-nup and multiple post-nups.
A pre-nup spells out exactly what happens in the event of a divorce. The only thing that you can’t pre-agree to are situations involving children, namely custody and child support. Other than that, a prenuptial agreement is basically a roadmap as to what happens if there is a divorce. On many occasions people go to war, as do countries, over miscommunication, misjudgment, and miscalculation. By having a pre-nup agreement both parties know where they stand at any point in time. It is not unusual that one or the other of the parties, knowing exactly what they can expect in a divorce, calls back the dogs of war. A post-nup agreement is the same as a pre-nup agreement; it merely is done after, rather than before, a marriage.